Going to boarding school isn't an easy decision. You'll need to adjust to a new environment. The physical separation from your family and old friends can make the decision emotionally difficult. Financial costs are also a consideration. Is it worth it? Couldn't the same education and experience be offered by a private day school? Or a magnet school? Or a good public high school?
Things you should consider and compare:
Depending on where you live, local schooling options can compare to boarding schools in several ways. Nearby private day schools, magnet schools, or public high schools can naturally have very bright student bodies and qualified faculty. Academic and extracurricular offerings can also be equally challenging and diverse. If you're considering local options besides boarding school, compare these important considerations:
- Attention to students - boarding schools generally have small class sizes that help teachers engage every student in the classroom. Classroom settings are often specifically designed to encourage student participation and eye contact among everyone in class.
- Quality of faculty - the majority of boarding school faculty have advanced degrees in either education or another specialty.
- Quality of resources - student resources at boarding schools - such as the library, theater facilities, or athletic complexes - can often be superior relative to local options.
- Challenging academics - academics at boarding schools operate at high standards. Students are pushed to "ask why, " become inquisitive, and tackle challenging problems.
- Broad and diverse offerings - course selections at boarding schools tend to be quite diverse, have plenty of AP options, and offer a wide range of topics. Athletic and extracurricular options tend to be broad as well, which encourage students to try new things. Many boarding schools also offer opportunities to study in different countries for a term.
- College counseling - college counseling departments at boarding schools are generally well-staffed and taken quite seriously. Counselors often have plenty of experience in helping applicants identify appropriate schools and advising them on getting-in at competitive institutions.
- Making choices that matter and taking responsibility for yourself - living on your own isn't always easy. There is, of course, plenty of support from faculty, advisors and peers. But still, you need to take care of yourself and take responsibility for your own actions to a much greater degree than if you were living at home. While there's definitely structure within the boarding school day, you still need to make choices around how you spend your time, what activities and opportunities to take, and how to create a reasonable balance between work and play. You'll be able to make choices that have a direct impact on the things you learn and the life you lead at boarding school. For parents: this roughly translates to increased maturity, greater self-sufficiency, and superior preparation for college.
- Being in an environment where trying new things is encouraged - going to boarding school means venturing into something unfamiliar. Going to boarding school, like any new adventure, means taking a risk because you think the reward will be worthwhile. The good news is that everyone else who goes to boarding school is also taking that risk. You'll be part of a community where the willingness to explore new things is inherent in the student body, and where lots of people will also be trying new things. During boarding school, you'll repeatedly make ventures into the unknown. You'll meet new types of people, find your place in a new community, learn new skills and subjects, and challenge yourself to a higher academic standard. With every little challenge that boarding school presents, you learn a little bit more about yourself and become a little bit more comfortable with yourself. For parents: this means that students often experience a lot of personal growth and increased self-confidence.
- Having a lot of fun and forming intense friendships - boarding school can also be a lot of fun. Imagine living in a house with a bunch of your best friends. It's common in boarding school for your dorm mates to become your closest friends and support network. The friendships that you make in this environment will be ones you will remember for life.
- Having a wide range of friends - boarding schools actively aim to recruit students from a wide range of geographic, racial, and socio-economic backgrounds. Many schools have students coming from all over the United States and dozens of different countries. At boarding schools, you'll be exposed to a relatively wide range of individuals and cultures, whereas local options may expose you to a narrower background of students.
- Having faculty as friends and having them regularly available - students are exposed to faculty in plenty of settings throughout the day - e.g., the classroom (as teachers), athletic fields (as coaches), extracurricular groups (as advisors), and dorm settings (as dorm supervisors). Since faculty are accessible throughout the day, getting academic help is usually a lot easier. Also, relationships with faculty members and adults can better thrive in these multiple settings, creating learning and mentorship opportunities that are hard to find in other environments.
- Being part of a proud community - boarding school alumni are generally very enthusiastic and proud of their boarding school alma maters (in many cases, more so than their college alma maters). The traditions and history behind many boarding schools drive the character of each school, and influence each student who goes there. The shared experience of this tradition and history creates a strong network of people and a feeling of community that lasts for life.